Grief is typically associated with death, the finality of losing someone we love. However, there's a different, less recognized form of grief that emerges when the person we mourn is still alive. This grief often stems from toxic family relationships, particularly with emotionally immature parents. It’s the grief of what might have been, what could have been, and what never was—a painful acknowledgment that the relationship you long for may never materialize.

The loss of a baby, whether through miscarriage, stillbirth, neonatal death, or infant loss is an indescribable heartbreak. For those who have experienced the excitement of pregnancy only to have it end unexpectedly, the grief can feel unbearable and isolating. Society often lacks the language or space to address these losses, leaving many parents feeling unseen in their pain. 

The holiday season, often filled with joy and togetherness, can become a profoundly painful time for those grieving the loss of a loved one. Whether through death or divorce, the absence of someone who was once integral to your life can turn celebrations into stark reminders of what (and who) is missing. It’s not just about the loss of their physical presence, but the deep ache of no longer being able to share in moments, traditions, or simple joys. The grief may come in waves—some moments bearable, others overwhelming—and during the holidays, the pain may be more acute.